That said, I am still extremely close with a couple of my exs. And when I say 'extremely close,' I mean it like, don't be surprised if they're throwing rice at my wedding. These select few continue to be some of my closest confidants and sounding boards (trust, there are few people that'll keep it as real than those who have seen you naked with the silk head scarf on- okay?)
But here's my thing- how do you tell the new Mr. Right that you and the old boo are still down like 4 flat tires. Cause trust, the whole- "oh that's just my ex calling the land line" answer does not, I repeat, does not go over well with black men.
For a moment, I was thinking that I'd just invite the ex-BF to the dinner with the current significant other. But let's just say, that moment lasted right up until I saw the tepid response in a poll I posted a while ago...
According to that, only 26% of you guys support the whole let's-break-bread movement. Really??? You don't think that if there's really nothing romantic left between you and an ex that 's a part of your life, you can bring him around the new man? Sigh. that's so frustrating. 'Cause when it's all said and done, doesn't that translate to shadiness on the part of the 73% who insist that nothing good can come out of the gesture???
Think about it, theoretically the new BF and I would have dinner with any other friend of mine-girl or guy... So why be different with this friend just because it's a guy that I used to be intimate with. Isn't the past the past?
I'm just saying. Personally, I would MUCH rather sit across a table from this woman so that I could gauge for myself what's really hood.