everybody's wearing a french roll w/ tendrils...

I was in the grocery store last night picking up some odds and ends when I noticed that New York Magazine's 2009 Weddings issue has a BLACK bride on the cover!!  Now you know... I almost crapped in my pants. 

'Cause not for nothing, the way previous issues have blatantly excluded any and all images of African-Americans, I wasn't so sure they knew that Black folks actually getting married in New York City too. Please feel free to insert your own side-eye at New York Mag too.

But all that excitement just made me think about another old poll question that I posted and never discussed with you guys... How important is having an actual wedding ceremony?

Interesting, 6% said you don't want one, 56% responded that you could give or take it and for the final 36% its an absolute must.

Honestly, I don't know where I stand on this one anymore. There are two things I live for: getting dressed up and throwing parties. So naturally I've always dreamed of a ridiculously huge wedding with a reception that lasts until the wee hours of the morning. 

And the Lord knows, I was born to be a bridezilla. I can see it now, making my girls wear orange taffeta dresses in the dead of summer and losing my shit over the not finding the perfect pair of Loubotins to wear under the big poofy dress at the reception... No sir, I'm just kidding!

But on the other hand, the more and more I listen to my friends complain about the cost of planning a their weddings and watch how miserable it makes everybody involved, the more I'm starting to considert putting that celebrity DJ retainer towards a down payment on a big ole house on the hill instead. 

Like Elsa always says, aint no shame in the City Hall game. And quietly, I could always throw a big party celebrating the signing of the certificate in my manse if I play my cards right.

So I guess well see.